Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Balancing Hubby & Kids


I was all set to post part 3 of my Discipline series, but Janeen of Christian Frugal Mama started a new carnival: Wednesday Wifehood & I really want to participate!

How do you keep your husband as the top priority when your children are little?  This is a constant struggle, at least for me.  You know the old proverb "a squeaky wheel gets the grease?"  Well, kids can be a very squeaky wheel!  Here are some things I try to do on a regular basis to remind my husband that he is the most important person in my life.  After all, my kids will eventually grow up & leave me, but my husband will be with me for the rest of our lives.
1.  As soon as my husband walks in the door, I try to stop what I am doing and kiss him, ask him how his day went, & offer him something to drink/snack on.  I want him to know that I've missed him & that his comfort is a priority to me.  I don't always do so great at this - some days I feel like he walks in the door & I start babbling about my day, but I'm trying to be better about that.
2.  Once our boys go to bed, I try to spend at least an hour of time focusing on my husband.  We've started recently exercising together & it's been such a nice quiet time to talk & reconnect.
3.  I always go to bed at the same time as my hubby.  This is a hard one for me.  My husband gets up early to go to work, so he likes to go to bed early.  I was raised a night owl & LOVE staying up late at night.  But by going to bed with him, I get to show him that I would rather be with him than do anything else.  I do sometimes stay up late & work on the computer, but only after my husband is asleep & next to him in bed (laptops are awesome).

What are some ways YOU show your husband he is The Man? 

2 comments:

  1. I try to make my husband's lunch the night before. I know how much it means to him, especially when I'm tired! Thanks for linking up (made me feel less lonely!) and thanks again for the adorable button. I finally got it firgured out and up, now I just need to get the code for it one there... :) One new step at a time!

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  2. I like the idea of going to bed at the same time. We do that too. Also we try to do as many activities as we can together. We once read a book that said that there are so many things that couples have to do apart, so try and use your ´spare time´ in things that you can do together. Also, encouraging words mean a lot to Joe so I try to encourage him as much as possible with my words...both in person and in notes.

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